After having thought this morning over my water and bible study, something quite clear dawned on me about my childhood.  I had not been raised to be a stay-at-home-Christian-mother.  This greatly saddens me.  While we were not the most devote Christians at the time, my parents have since become more Christian.  And that brings great joy and comfort to my heart.  However… I now know what a rare treasure it is to have a godly mother who is willing to teach, challenge, encourage, and come alongside her daughter.  As the well-rounded, productive wife and mother I aspire to be, I will make sure that my daughter receives the qualities a young woman should be extremely knowledgeable in. 

I will teach her about cooking, cleaning, shopping frugally, make sure she is knowledgeable in organization, discipline, time management skills, and being strong and proud of her Christianity.

I desire to cultivate in her a servants heart, and many other beneficial character traits.  I hope and trust that keeping her as a “stay-at-home-daughter,” will make the transfer of authority from her father to her husband an easy task, rather than if she had been allowed to move out, and become exclusively accustomed to running her own life. 

In preparing myself for raising my daughter in that structure I have been reading the bible, studying God’s word about what a Christian woman should be, and I have read and prayed over the 7 habits of The Highly Effective Woman. 

In this study, I have learned that the 7 Habits of the Highly Effective Woman are:

1. She rises early

2. She maintains the spiritual disciplines

3. She focuses on relational priorities for every season

4. She sets up regular times for planning

5. She develops an effective to-do list system and calendar/planner system

6. She establishes an efficient routine for managing her home

7. She organizes her house systematically

While I do constantly try to manage all of these tasks, it has become obvious to me that God is calling me to try harder, focus more, and to ask Him for assistance in completing these habits, so that when my daughter is able to start copying my behavior, and learning these habits from me, I am more than able to set forth a beneficial opportunity. 

As for the first habit, I do wake at 5 am every morning.  To keep myself accountable to that habit I have recently found and joined the 5 o’clock club.  It has allotted me time to myself before the daily chaos starts, to collect my thoughts, plan my day, and fellowship with God. 

The other habits, are becoming habits of mine, I read the bible and fellowship with God daily.  I am beginning to realize the importance of focusing on relational priorities, While I do not consider myself a great planner, I am beginning to get this habit under my “daily” belt.  As a part of the planning, I have developed a to-do list system, planner system, established an efficient routing for managing my home, and organizing my house systematically utilizing the “Fly Lady” Method.    I will say that finding Fly Lady during this pregnancy has done me a great benefit, and I am thankful to her and to God for pointing me in that direction. 

As women, mothers, stay-at-home or working, Do you see the necessity of raising your daughters in this method?  Do you raise her in some similar fashion, or do you let her become what society dictates as of late, a working, late in life mother who doesn’t know how to run her household or manage her career at the same time?  Pray to God for assistance in whatever fashion you decide to raise your daughters.  But for their benefit seriously consider reverting to the lost art of Motherhood, Homemaking, and Wifery.

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Last night while having some time on my hands, I was looking online for advice that I could give married couples on how to live a more Godly, and spiritually based marriage. In doing so, I found a great article at Growthtrac.com. The article I read was, Putting Your Spouse First written by Bob and Cheryl Moeller.

In the article they gave a few suggestions as to how to begin to put your spouse first in your marriage.

1. Pray together before the day begins.
"Let us then approach the throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need" (Hebrews 4:16).

While my husband and I do not currently do this, I do make the effort every day to pray for our relationship, our family, our children, and for extended family. I personally have found that this simple action has made me concentrate on my marriage, motherhood, and my relationship with God.

2. Act out love to experience feelings of love.
"For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life" (John 3:16).

Everyday, I ask myself, "What can I do today to show my husband that I love him?" I also make sure that I ask him if he needs me to do anything imparticular that day that would make his day easier. Then I follow through on both of those questions. Ensuring that not only does he hear me tell him that I love him everyday, My husband also sees my love and devotion to him in the tasks I have completed during the day.


3. Spend thirty minutes a day in a shared activity and intimate conversation.

Everyday, at the end of the day, after our daughter is in bed, We have "Adult time." During that time, we discuss things about the day, snuggle, watch tv or movie, share a special snack, or I may rub his back, or wash and rub his feet. Both of the last things, to me is also a great symbol of my submission to him as the head of our family. Also, I feel that it is a biblical way to prove my love and devotion to him, and to our marriage.

4. Give your spouse the right to access you any time day or night.

My husband knows that during the day, He can talk to me whenever he wants, and that I will listen. He can always depend on this quality of mine. While I may be having to change a diaper, or feed the baby during the conversation or discussion, my attention is also on what he is saying to me. And I am making sure he knows that I am hearing and listening to him, by asking pertinent questions and making suggestions, and even writing notes in my planner after the conversation.

5. Submit your time decisions to the fifty-year rule.

The fifty-year rule simply asks, "Fifty years from now will we be glad or regret the way we used our time today?"

My husband and I make sure that we spend our time in quality, not quantity. We make sure that we are doing things to make our marriage stronger, our family values a priority, and making sure our children know we love them and love each other.

Teach us to number our days aright,
that we may gain a heart of wisdom.
(Psalm 90:12)

This prayer is included in the article written, however, I am personally going to start using it everyday during my devotionals and prayer time to ask God assistance in my marriage.

Lord Jesus, thank You for making it so clear in Your Word that my marriage relationship is to be among my highest priorities, second only to my devotion to You. I ask You to forgive me for allowing other things to confuse that divinely ordered plan. Today let my marriage be a clear example and message to the world how much You love Your Church. Use my softened heart toward my mate as an avenue to draw people to the gospel. Let our heart connection in marriage make it easier for our children to come to a lifelong faith in You. Finally, may our home be a small foretaste of the joys of heaven. I ask this in Your Name, Lord Jesus, the One who is soon returning for us, Your bride. Amen.

Also included in the article were these questions, however, I do feel they are something that even if you do not go read the article perhaps you should see, and consider, and discuss with your spouse.

Questions for You and Your Spouse to Discuss
1. Why does the example of a loving and committed marriage have such an impact on others? What will people say was the legacy of your marriage?

2. Which of the nine reasons for keeping a soft heart impresses you most? Which of the negative consequences of a hard heart do you wish most to avoid?

3. Why does it matter that your marriage comes with an expiration date? What steps can you each take today to redeem the days you have left together?

A Mother's Prayer

Dear Lord, it's such a hectic day, With little time to stop and pray,

For Life's been anything but calm, Since You called me to be a mom -

Running errands, matching socks, Building dreams with matching blocks,

Cooking, cleaning and finding shoes And other stuff that children lose,

Fitting lids on bottled bugs, Wiping tears and giving hugs,

A stack of last week's mail to read - So where's the quiet time I need?

Yet, when I steal a moment, Lord, Just at the sink or ironing board,

To ask the blessings of Your grace,i see then, in my small one's face, That You have blessed me all the while-

And I stoop to kiss... That precious smile.

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I have been flying with the Fly Lady for about a month and a half now. I finished my baby steps and have set up an awesome routine for during the whole day. I also am working on my control journal. I think I have a great start on it, and I truly believe that when I get done with it, it will be very beneficial to my keeping my routines and the house tidy once the new baby arrives. It hasn't been that hard with our daughter, however, she is only 9 months old, so things are easy. But by the time the baby arrives, she will be a toddler, so I think it might become more difficult. As they at that point will both be demanding more of me. I am up to the test though. If any of my readers have control journals, or household manuals that you have taken the time to put together, feel free to share. I would love to have everyone join in on making our lives easier from day to day. If you live in CHAOS, maybe it is time for you to FLY as well. Why don't you check out Fly Lady as well, you might find exactly what you are looking for to get more organized. I wish you the best of luck in your endeavors to become more loving of yourself and more organized. I will keep all of you in my prayers.

The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. Favour is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised. ~ Proverbs 31:11-12;30(KJV)

Reading today's devotion got me questioning whether my husband can count on me and lean on me. Every morning I make sure to ask him what I can do for him that day. While God is my first priority, my husband is my second, then my children. I do make sure that our daughter sees me as a positive role model as far as being my husband's helpmate. And that I take care of the household to make sure it is a safe and comfortable place for our family. I know that he appreciates everything I do for our family. While my husband is disabled I do know that he knows that he can count and lean on me for caring for the house, the children, and his needs. I am lucky to have him as a loving and dedicated husband and father to our children. In my fear of God, I know in my heart that I will hold a place for my family in God's kingdom. This knowledge holds great light and love in my soul. Our children will know their Father God, and know that they are His children. I hope that my husband and I raise them knowing the true love of God and fear Him in all they do. So that they too will enjoy the peace and comfort of joining our heavenly Father in Heaven.